You don’t like someone elses hair, boobs, way to dress? What to do and how to react to this tragedy that you have to look at.
I don’t know why the urge of homo sapiens is so high, to comment on everything. We made whole social media platforms that a just about to dumb every bullshit of opinion on there. Why are we so full of ourselves that we think that our opinions matter? And why are we taking any comments from any stranger seriously that we get? Even if you are loved by millions, there will always be someone saying „she is too fat/ too skinny/ too basic/ too bitchy/ too loud/ showing too much/ showing too little/ too small boobs/ too big boobs…“. And I don’t get the audacity, that people think it should matter to that person they comment on and change themselves accordingly.
Also on dating apps, I get the „you are cute but guys aren’t attracted to blue hair“ occasionally and can’t stop laughing that these people think I would change my gorgeous, gorgeous hair to their needs. And also that they feel the need to tell me that „I am doing something wrong“. I am not. I can look the way I want. If they don’t like it it’s their problem.
The same goes for being fat. But there are even more people who think they have the right to tell other people what to do and turn into doctors and diet experts just so that you know there’s „something wrong with your body that you need to fix“. I see so many videos out there, where it is not about the person or their body at all, like educational videos, or people showing their talent. And every 10th comment is on their body. Is this fixation still healthy?
Is it uplifting? Is it benefiting the other person? Am I not just letting go of anger that I have towards myself? If the answer is no: keep it to yourself.
Why we shouldn’t comment on other’s bodies
- it’s none of our fucking business
Everyone can look how they want. They don’t need anyone’s approval, they don’t need anyone’s praise. They will have a decent life without our unnecessary comment. Trust me. - It has nothing to do with us
It doesn’t hurt you, it doesn’t harm you, it’s not making your life in any way miserable, so why bother to comment anyways. - Everyone has a body, so what?
Our bodies are there to function, to carry us through the day, to enjoy with all senses, what this world has to offer. Bodies can look different and that is okay. Bodies don’t need to please our gaze. - Nobody is perfect and nobody needs to be
The idea that imperfections are not okay is not okay. Beauty can exist outside of perfection, outside norms and ideals. We all know that. We are just not ready to accept it. - Who are we to judge?
The audacity of anyone who has their own insecurities and imperfections to judge another one for theirs is just stunning. And why do we think that what we think is right? - If it bothers us how someone else looks it has everything to do with us and nothing with them
People can get so angry over other’s appearance that they call out death threats! I am not joking! I wish I was. Why does anyone have such strong emotions towards someone elses body? So it has to to with ourselves and we are projecting it onto somebody. - Why do other people have to live to our standards?
You have standards you live by? Great. If you need them, go ahead. But be aware that this are YOUR standards and don’t need to be anyone elses. They still can have their own standards – as far apart from yours as they please. - We could just not
I wish people would ask themselves before posting or commenting on someone else: Is it uplifting? Is it benefiting the other person? Am I not just letting go of anger that I have towards myself? If the answer is no: keep it to yourself. - Nobody owes us anything
If we don’t like what we see, we can just choose to look away. Just because you look a person’s way or just because you see their post, doesn’t mean, they have to look or behave the way you want them to. - Just because we don’t like it, doesn’t mean it’s bad
Everyone has their own taste, their own perspective, their own right how to carry their body. You can have a different taste or view but that doesn’t mean, theirs is not valid.
Such comments can be hurtful and stick with someone forever. Let’s break this chain.
Why this is so important though
I want to clarify: I am no saint. I catch myself commenting on people in my head. I grew up with a very judging family who had to say things about everyone. It took me a long time to find out that this is the result of people not liking themselves and struggling all their lives with their own bodies. My mum still tells me about comments she got in school about her broad shoulders. One of the most gorgeous women I know didn’t like her body all her life because her aunt made a disparaging remark about her as a child. And I know thousands of examples. There’s no need to put others down just to feel better about yourself. Nobody is to blame if you aren’t happy with your body. Such comments can be hurtful and stick with someone forever. Let’s break this chain.
