Still, they get picked up.
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This might hurt a little. We don’t find out at the 5th red flag that he’s a player, we just ignore the other 4.
Because if he’s the one with the nice smile and the abs, hell yeah, we wanna be liked by him. So much, that he’s the one getting away with quite something. He will be trying to overstep our boundaries like a little kid from day one and will try to find out how far he can go. And if we don’t stand our ground, stand our no, you’re trash in his eyes, and like that he will dump you. If we complain then, we’re the crazy bitch because we did allow him to treat us like trash voluntarily.
Hanging out at 2am?
If we say no to him when he hits you up spontaneously to hang out at 2 in the morning and he says bye, it’s no loss, but we keep our self-respect. The trash just took himself out. If we lose him and our self-respect, that would be a loss. Because in order to be happy he can have abs to the moon and back, if he doesn’t respect us or treat us right, it will cause us a lot more pain than letting him go in the first place.
But your hope never dies. That he’s a good guy after all and then he can be nice but then he doesn’t text in a week?
He could be trash all they want if you wouldn’t let him spill all over you. If you would just love yourself enough and not view yourself as trash by the things you tell yourself, you wouldn’t be dependent on this little attention.
I am not saying, it’s your fault. We all wanna be loved.
Are there good men out there?
Yes. It’s good to know what you want in a man to not be blinded by first attraction. Intuitionally, we tend to go for trash. If we learned that we have to earn to be loved, of course, we go for that makes us work for their attention. Like you had to do with your Dad. Or your Mum. It’s not easy to trust stable affection and connection when you never experienced it before. Everything risky is way more interesting, than a safe pick.
