- Just because they say they are honest doesn’t mean they are
Hardly anyone will ever admit „ah I lie a lot“, so everyone, even notorious liars will tell you they are always honest. Also if they expect you to be honest still doesn’t mean they are. And honesty in dating is tricky. But if someone tells you that you met on an app, that they only meet you, it’s probably not true. - Don’t accept things that you cannot live with
Something you tolerate from the start won’t improve because you showed in the beginning that you are okay with it. Sure we want to be liked but ignoring our own needs and boundaries just to be with someone isn’t beneficial to you. - Dating as a people pleaser can harm you
Sadly, I had to learn it the hard way that it’s quite harmful to put others’ comfort over mine. You end up doing things you don’t want to and don’t understand why you do. - You can’t be too busy if it’s important to you
There’s always time to drop a quick message. If they reply in 2 weeks with „sorry I was busy“, it was never that important to them anyways. You find out the difference if someone really cares and puts you as a priority. - Your childhood determined who you are attracted to
It’s so fucked up but you can be attracted to inconsistent and cold people if your parents were like this to you. Because that’s how you learned love. - Things that aren’t good in the beginning can turn out great
I thought you find out within the first minutes of a date if it’s worth it or not. In some cases I am very happy I didn’t leave after 15 minutes. Some people need some time to feel comfortable around someone new and dare to be themselves. - Things that are starting great can turn out to be horrible
„This sounds like a perfect love story“ is how I can title many beginnings of my stories that changed in the end into horror trips. You find out the person isn’t who they claim to be, there’s another person married or coupled to them, the sweetest people intentionally hurt you in the end… it’s a gamble. - Your intuition knows more than you
If something tells you „no“ in the beginning and you don’t know why, it’s your gut speaking. We tend to ignore it too often when things look good on paper. - People who brag that they are good in bed usually aren’t
Nothing more to add to that one actually. - If it doesn’t feel good the way they touch you, it never will.
If I really liked that person and had a connection but I didn’t feel drawn to them physically or had to tell them how I don’t want to be touched, it never ended well. The „wrong touch“ could be such a turn off in the end that it outweighs the connection we formed. I am sorry.
10 things about dating I wish I knew earlier
